Many say an unplanned pregnancy and deciding how to handle it only concerns the woman. But it takes two to get pregnant, so two ought to choose. Here are some suggestions for handling the situation if your partner says those two little words. “I’m pregnant.”
Has She Confirmed Her Pregnancy?
Although her period is late and the pregnancy test is positive, there may be more to know. Make sure she confirms her pregnancy with an ultrasound. By having an ultrasound scan, she’ll learn if the pregnancy is viable (developing) or if she’s had a miscarriage.
Experts estimate as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Because it takes her body time to return to pre-pregnancy hormone levels, she could get a positive pregnancy test and no longer be pregnant. She will also learn how far along she is and if the location of the pregnancy is correct.
Have her schedule a confidential, no-cost pregnancy test at Black Hills Pregnancy Center. If the test is positive, we’ll schedule her for a no-cost ultrasound. You can come with her to the appointment, if she’d like.
It’s Confirmed. Now What?
Hopefully, before the pregnancy was confirmed, you two have been talking. Keeping the lines of communication open is critical. She needs you now more than ever.
To discuss the situation and learn about your options, schedule a no-cost appointment with one of our trained advocates for the two of you. We can look at all of your choices: having an abortion, making an adoption plan, or choosing to co-parent.
Be honest with her about your concerns and fears. Let her speak freely about her concerns and worries.
What Not To Do
Don’t run from your responsibilities by saying, “I’m fine with whatever you decide.” Talk it out. Don’t pressure her to make one decision over another. You need to work together.
We’re here for you as much as we are for her. If you need to talk to someone, call us. We’ll be happy to meet with you.
